Here’s a Quick Way to get back your Girlfriend

Relationship breaks ! Relationships are difficult to maintain. Even with the best of intentions, relationships may be neglected or, the two of you involved may forget to nurture and took things for granted. Then the relationship breaks down.

* You should not beg for her to come back. That would mean desperation. She might be irritated if you frequently call her. This would appear like a blame game and might only induce guilt. This might scare her away or lead her to cut off all communication.
* Keep your communication lines open. She might be more inclined to talk with you about the things that made your relationship hit rock bottom. It would be easier for you to ask for forgiveness. You should also forgive her for anything wrong that she might have done.
* If she is dating someone else, choose your words carefully. Your words have considerable weight and how you say will make difference.
* Never bad mouth her new beau. It only makes you look bad and jealous. She is likely to not talk to you afterwards. Women have a tendency to already know that you may be jealous. The best thing for you to do is show her how mature you actually are. Sometimes by wishing her good luck. It’s called reverse psychology in relationships.
* Many ex couples are choosing to stay friends if the break up was amicable. If she is able to call you after the break up then you still have a fighting chance. Should she bring up her new hunk, you should hold back on doing trash talking. Let her figure things out on her own and let her come to you if she wants to. Give her some advice after you listen to talk.
* By not badmouthing her or criticising him, she will realize how mature you actually are. This means she will want to keep you as a friend and if it does not work out with her new beau. You can be someone who she puts her trust and feelings with.
* Don’t be there when she wants you. You need her to miss you. Get busy or ignore her calls.

The must haves for woman about sex !

1. EVERY WOMAN HAS A SUREFIRE HAPPY-MAKING POSITION—FIND YOURS
By all means, try new things, mix it up, find an alternate use for things at hand if it adds to the variety—figure out your no-fail move or position so you can always have an orgasm when you need one.

2. THAT POSITION MAY CHANGE
Maybe in your misspent youth you were all about acrobatics and funky props, but now you strive for a deep connection with your guy. (Or maybe it’s the other way around!) What you crave, both physically and emotionally, can shift over time.

3. HE DOESN’T HAVE A FLAW-O-METER
That would be you scanning your body for an errant paunch or a dimple in the wrong place. During sexual arousal, men are experiencing such a neurochemical cocktail rush, they’re really just caught up in the intoxication of it all. In other words, he’s too overwhelmed with joy to notice your flaws.

4. SEX IN A SOFT, CLEAN, COMFY BED IS UNDERRATED
You’re supposed to want to do it on the kitchen floor, in the airplane bathroom, and hanging from your light fixtures. Bah! There’s no shame in enjoying your good sheets.

5. SEX CLICHÉS ARE CLICHÉS FOR A REASON: THEY WORK
Get a hotel room. Have date night. Take a bubble bath. For God’s sake, buy some scented candles!

6. EVERYONE ELSE IS NOT HAVING MORE (OR BETTER) SEX THAN YOU ARE
There is no normal amount we should all aspire to, no magic number of times per month that signifies your relationship is hunky-dory.

7. ASKING FOR WHAT YOU WANT IS WORTH THE EMBARRASSMENT
What’s a brief awkward moment of sounding like one of those women at the end of a helpline number compared to, well, getting what you need?

8. YOU NEED TRANSITION TIME INTO SEX
Look at all the people who want a piece of you—your kid, your client, the guy who’s supposed to be renovating your kitchen. So don’t expect to make the leap from corporate exec or general contractor or mommy-on-the-spot to sex goddess without a little time to reassemble yourself. When you’re done with the dinner dishes, take a shower—alone—or read a book.

9. THE MORE SEX YOU HAVE, THE MORE YOU WANT
It’s simple: Delicious recent memories make you want to reenact the fun. But the reverse is also often true—if you go too
long without, you forget how much you like it.

10. WORRYING ABOUT YOUR ORGASM IS THE BEST WAY TO CHASE IT AWAY
When your mind is roiling, it’s not happening... concentrate.... he’ll think he failed... what’s wrong with me? you’re thinking, not feeling. Focus on the lovely physical sensations instead and soon you won’t be able to think straight in a good way.

11. PLANNED SEX CAN BE EVEN BETTER THAN SPONTANEOUS SEX
Anticipation as foreplay. Think about it.

12. HE DOESN’T NEED YOU TO KNOW ANY FANCY TECHNIQUES
There are many paths to male orgasm. As long as you pay attention to his reactions, refrain from inflicting pain (unless invited to) and don’t do anything involving teeth (again, unless he asks), you won’t hear any complaints.

13. SOMETIMES WHAT YOUR BODY LUSTS FOR MOST IS SLEEP
An off night or a dry spell doesn’t mean your relationship is tanking. It usually means you have children or a demanding job or you need to be alone in your head. Go ahead, take the night off.

14. BUT SOMETIMES ‘JUST DO IT’ REALLY DOES WORK
If you wait to be struck with a spontaneous urge to tear his clothes off, you may be waiting a very long time. But if you simply decide to give it a go, your body (and your desire) will often catch up.

15. YOUR BIRTH CONTROL METHOD IS NOT TILL DEATH DO US PART
You need to reevaluate your pregnancyprevention method at least twice in your adult life, when you go from wild woman to a mutually monogamous relationship, and after you have children. Your body changes post-baby and your habits may change, too.

16. PAIN DURING INTERCOURSE IS NOT NORMAL
Occasional discomfort may just mean that you’re tense or haven’t had enough foreplay, but if sex hurts often, see your doctor. It could be as simple as a low-grade urinary tract infection.

17. SEX IS HOW HE SHOWS LOVE
It’s an age-old problem: We gals need to feel cozy and loving to want to have sex, and guys need to have sex to access those cozy and loving feelings. A lot of guys don’t have many outlets for communication, and for them sex is a powerful form of emotional expression.

18. NO MATTER HOW BADLY YOU WANT TO CUDDLE AND FALL ASLEEP, YOU GOT TO GET UP AND PEE AFTER SEX
So you don’t get a urinary tract infection.

Courtsy : Times of India

Warm Discussion : Get your man to kiss you !

*Break the ‘touch barrier’. Touch his elbow, hold hands, put a hand on his knee. Breaking this barrier will help both of you get past some of the hangups the two of you may have about physical contact.

* Be mentally prepared as the moment approaches. Most first kisses happen towards the end of a date. Visualise in your mind what you want to happen.

*Look him in the eyes and bite your lower lip slightly. You should smile gently.

*Brush your teeth well before you get together. There’s nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath, or someone who still has leftovers stuck bephysical,tween their pearly whites.

* Take a few steps forward and touch his elbow. By this time, he should lean forward.

* Stare into his eyes deeply and move your head towards him slowly.

* When he starts to close his eyes, close yours and lean forward slightly. He’ll be more than happy to do the work.

* When you do kiss him, don’t rush off to tell everyone. Some guys are shy and won’t appreciate your sharing something between the two of you with all your friends.

True Lies about Marriage !

LIE 1: ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE
Marital bliss is a myth. The type of unconditional love that one has for their own children, doesn’t and shouldn’t exist between marital partners. We live in a culture that stresses a preoccupation with personal happiness above all and a belief that marriage is the solution to life’s problems and essential for personal happiness. This type of thinking leaves people unskilled in developing and managing intimate relationships and couples who have little appreciation for the true difficulties and complexities of married life.

LIE 2: I TALK ALL THE TIME; MY SPOUSE JUST DOESN’T LISTEN
Most of us talk ourselves to death but we actually communicate very poorly. We are encouraged to be open about our feelings but very few of us know how to speak or listen effectively. Relationship experts advise us to tell it like it is and be brutally honest to our partners but the truth is that brutal honesty often encourages brutality more than honesty. Spouses use their version of the truth to bludgeon their partners into submission.

LIE 3: PEOPLE DON’T REALLY CHANGE
Many today believe that deep down, people can’t change much or that nothing in a marriage can change unless both partners change. These incorrect and pessimistic beliefs sabotage efforts to improve the marriage. Most people go about trying to change their relationships in unproductive ways, get frustrated by the results and then claim that this outcome proves that people don’t change, but even if one partner is adamantly set against change, there’s a lot the other partner can do.

LIE 4: WHEN YOU MARRY, YOU CREATE YOUR OWN FAMILY LEGACY
You may live far away from your family of origin, but now that you have your own family, their grip on you is tighter than ever. When we become husbands, wives
and parents, the models and issues we saw within our families of origin emerge and take over our relationships. Our grandparents were likely to live close to their parents (if not in the same house), see each other often and stay personally involved in each other’s lives. Today, in our highly mobile society, we tend to live farther from our parents. Paradoxically, their influence may be greater than ever. Spouses who don’t appreciate the power their original families exert on their values and styles tend to face problems in their marriages.

LIE 5: EGALITARIAN MARRIAGE IS EASIER THAN TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE
In the newer, egalitarian model of marriage, the expectation is that while not every chore will be split halfway, family responsibilities should be divided fairly, and decisionmaking power will be shared. The husband in this model respects his wife’s work and shares in family life, never insisting on being in control based on financial earnings or gender. Equality in theory is wonderful; in reality, but spouses in trouble often are conflicted over gender role expectations and responsibilities.

LIE 6: CHILDREN SOLIDIFY A MARRIAGE
Let’s speak the unspeakable: Children are an enormous threat to your marriage. It’s very, very difficult to admit that the children you love so much can drive a wedge into your life as a couple. However,
the reality is that in a world where spouses already work too hard and don’t spend enough time with each other, the addition of children usually eats up the remaining physical and emotional energy you had for each other. Even when you love your children fiercely, even when you think you are prepared for the tremendous dislocation they would cause, children can tear your marriage down to its bedrock.

Seven mistakes women make in bed !

HOPING YOUR MAN IS A MIND-READER

It may be a feminine game, but it won’t get you what you want. Men just don’t think that way, and it’s disrespectful to later blame them for something they could never figure out from such indirect communication. Drop the games and be direct. Effective communication is what will hold you in good stead. If you’re embarrassed to ask what you want, use language which makes your meaning clear. Though you may find it difficult to express your emotions, he’ll need feedback to make sure he carries on enthusiastically. Losing your self in your bliss and not saying anything will make him wonder if you’re asleep, dead or uninterested, at which point he is most likely to stop.

RESENTING HIM WHEN HE DOESN’T GET IT RIGHT

If you want more foreplay, then you need to say so. If he charges straight into your erogenous zones after a few minutes’ of petting and kissing, then you need to educate him about what you want. Men are much more quickly aroused than women on the whole, and they simply need slowing down. As a woman you’re likely to be more creative than a man, so maybe you can apply your creative skills to sex, and improve it for both of you!

NOT REALISING THAT ‘WOMEN COME FIRST’!

Well, maybe not in everything, but it’s not a bad rule to follow during sex. Men lose interest after a while: like it or not, that’s how they are biologically built (in fact they are programmed to sleep after sex) and unless they’re especially sensitive, they won’t be much interested in your satisfaction. The best way to deal with this is to have extended foreplay. This way he’ll be very turned on and he will enjoy the act.

BEING CRITICAL OF YOUR BODY

It’s hard for women to believe, but it’s true. In general, men are much less critical of your body than you are. When you start hiding it during sex, or refusing to enjoy certain sexual positions because you fear what he might think of your body, he’s likely to get very disenchanted, very quickly. If you need reassurance that your body is OK, remember rule number 1: ask him for it. Say, for example, “Do you find me attractive?”

NOT BEING ASSERTIVE DURING SEX

It’s an old, old stereotype: men lead, women follow. Well, that certainly shouldn’t be true all the time in sex. Even if you like him to be masculine and dominant during sex, or even if you like to feel as if you’re being “taken” sometimes, it’s just as nice for him to see your assertive side. Take the lead from time to time.

BEING CRITICAL OF HIS PERFORMANCE

Nothing but nothing will turn a man off faster than being critical. Instead, find a way of gently expressing your feelings.

BEING TOO INSECURE

You want the lights off, you have to be under the covers and you never want to take off your shirt. Yeah, that sounds like some really exciting sex. If he’s with you, it’s because he likes you. So it’s time you got over your insecurities and gave in to your flaws. You can do so with baby steps by lighting candles. You are all set, go with the flow

Soha Ali Khan does a take on yesteryear actors !

VYJAYANTHIMALA: Here Soha replicates the Sangam star’s perfect grace and beauty. Note the magenta match
WAHEEDA REHMAN: Waheedaji was happy to play ‘Guide’ for this look. She helped me to get Soha look like her by bringing out all her old saris for reference
NADIRA: This is about being truly bold and beautiful. Nadira was bold enough to carry off some very creative costumes with style and grace. Nadira for me was the ultimate style guru of her time
NARGIS: I chose Nargis as a strong reference point because Soha’s face has her softness
SHARMILA TAGORE: Emulating her mother’s look was easy. All I did was keep the hairdo and make-up strictly Sharmila style
SAIRA BANU: Saira Banu was representative of the ’60s. Soha’s sex appeal as Saira is a reflection of that time. Also her hair and saris were designed keeping the hair accessories of that era in mind
MEENA KUMARI: Meena Kumari’s drop dead beauty and naivete were the key elements when Soha was given her look. I only wanted her to sport a ‘wiped off’ red bindi for her Meena Kumari look as she was seen in Sahib Bibi Aur Ghulam. I also wanted her to look heartbreakingly sad
HELEN: Soha performs a cabaret in Khoya Khoya Chand. And who is better than the sultry Helen when we think of a sexy cabaret number?

Mushroom fresh !

When it comes to selenium content, mushrooms surpass all other items in the produce category. White button mushrooms are also good selenium sources. With a significant amount of selenium in every serving, mushrooms could turn out to be important ingredients in a cancer-fighting diet, especially in lowering the risk of prostate cancer.
They are also good sources of three essential B-vitamins: riboflavin, niacin and pantothenic acid. Mushrooms are a particularly rich source of riboflavin: a serving of white mushrooms supplies one-quarter of what we need daily. They are rather under-recognised source of potassium, an element that helps regulate blood pressure, helps keep the right balance of water in fat and muscle tissues, and helps ensure the proper functioning of cells.
Whether you’re counting carbs or calories—or just trying to include more health foods in your diet—fresh mushrooms are an ideal fit. Five medium mushrooms contain only 20 calories, 3 grams of carbohydrate, and are virtually fat free.

HOW TO COOK MUSHROOMS
There is nothing like fried mushrooms on toast for breakfast, served sizzling hot straight from the pan. Once cooked, mushrooms go soft and flabby, they taste okay, but the pleasure is not so great. They are largely composed of water and shrink noticeably during cooking. They also take up a lot of fat as they cook so it is best to use butter or a good olive oil for frying. Fry them briskly so that as they shrink the water evaporates and they don’t stew in their own juices. For the same reason, do not fry too many mushrooms at once in the same pan. Mushrooms should also never be washed but wipe with a damp cloth or a kitchen towel. Unless the skins are very discoloured, it should not be necessary to peel them, although you probably will need to trim the very base of the stem.

Small and very private Wedding !

• Choose location for small weddings more appropriately. Large halls do not take bookings for smaller number of people that leaves you with unusual and unique options. Take advantage and settle for something new.

• View your budget for the big day and then make plans. Small wedding rightly means fewer guests and low expenditure. Chart out each and every expense starting from clothes, food, ceremony, wedding administrator etc. even a low cost wedding demands a reasonable amount of funds.

• At your small affair, you can settle for some favourite traditional dishes and appetizers. Your priority is taste and good food for family and not large embellishments for people. You can relish on exotic dishes prepared with family’s preference.

• Let all your family and friends say a few words and express their feelings at the event. You do not have to be perfect and formal at the event. This would be an emotional and outstanding moment at your wedding.

• Get a projector and enjoy some memorable times with family and friends. Play some old family events and achievements to feel proud to be one.

• You can plan a vacation wedding as well. With just family and few close friends it will not be grand expense.

• Small private weddings might not be the most preferred ones but they surely are wisest choices. Looking back you will have people envying you for this dynamic move and wish they had done the same.

Popping pleasure !

Stress relief, diet aid, lucky charm: few can resist the allure of bubble wrap and now a Japanese company is finding new reasons to pop till you drop.

In Japan, the plastic packaging material is best known by a local brand-name Puti Puti, pronounced "poochy-poochy", and Kawakami Sangyo Co, its biggest manufacturer, has set up the Puti Puti Culture Laboratory dedicated to finding unusual uses for it.

"I think about Puti Puti almost every waking hour," said Ayaka Sugiyama, the head of the laboratory whose hobbies include singing in a five-person band called "Puti Metal".

"I'm not an expert in psychology, but it is said that if people see a chair, they want to sit in it. If they see a button on an intercom, they want to push it," she said.

"It's the same with Puti Puti. The bubbles stick out, so you want to squash them."

Hoping to tap into Puti Puti's appeal, Sugiyama started jotting down notes on unusual uses of the packaging material about seven years ago and the ideas were compiled in a "Puti Puti Official Book" published last year.

Among the suggestions are injecting the bubbles with coloured ink to create mosaic-like artwork, sitting on the sheets at picnics, sewing them into in a wedding dress and -- this from an 85-year-old woman -- popping bubbles to help prevent senility.

Kawakami Sangyo teamed up with toy maker Bandai Corp to develop a Mugen Puti Puti, or an "infinite pop pop" key chain with eight re-poppable bubbles -- although Puti Puti purist Sugiyama admits the sensation isn't the same as the real thing.

Sugiyama, a slender 30-year-old, says she sometimes pops Puti Puti bubbles while watching TV as a way to keep her hands busy and refrain from munching junk food.

Kawakami Sangyo, whose main customers for Puti Puti are manufacturers, is creating products aimed at retail consumers.

"Pucchin Sukatto", a box of small bubble wrap sheets developed solely for popping, went on sale at convenience stores for 198 yen ($1.78) in October and a "Puti Puti Calendar" comes with a square bubble on each day of the month.

"For those who think one Puti Puti per day is not enough, there are extras at the end of each month," Sugiyama said.

Kawakami Sangyo also includes one heart-shaped bubble per every 10,000 on ordinary wrapping for good luck -- sort of like a four-leaf clover -- and offers special sheets of giant bubbles that make a startlingly loud cracking noise when popped.

The company is now trying to develop star-shaped bubbles as well as scented Puti Puti, though both have proven tricky.

"The scent doesn't last," Sugiyama said of the efforts so far to make strawberry-scented Puti Puti.

"But we're still trying. Bursting the bubbles makes you feel calm and reduces stress and if there were a scent, it would be even more soothing."

Indian sailor jailed in UK for sexually assaulting teenager !

An Indian sailor has been jailed by the Southampton Crown Court for 15 months for sexually assaulting a 14-year-old passenger on his ship when it was in the Mediterranean.

Cajetan Fernandes, 30, who hails from Mumbai, reportedly befriended the girl while he waited on her family's table during a trip on the Southampton-registered ship named Aurora. The ship is owned by the cruise major P & O.

Fernandes persuaded the girl to follow him while she was waiting for a friend outside the restaurant one evening. Prosecuting lawyer James Kellam said he led her around the ship to a toilet cubicle, locked the door and sexually assaulted her.

Kellam said the girl described her ordeal as 'feeling horrible' and talking about it as 'acutely embarrassing'. The girl eventually confided in a friend she met on the cruise ship who persuaded her to talk to a youth worker.

Fernandes was arrested when the liner docked in Southampton, according to a report in the Daily Echo, a leading daily published from Hampshire.

Megan Toplis, lawyer for Fernandes, said he was a man of good character who had pleaded guilty at the earliest opportunity. Fernandes had worked on cruise ships for nine years and there had 'never been a problem or question as to his integrity', she said.

Toplis said Fernandes had not used force, nor used coercion or made threats to the girl. He had 'lost sight of rights and wrongs', she said and added that he had shown genuine remorse and was extremely sorry for what he had done.

She said he had received no visitors while in custody and had been too ashamed to let his family know what he had done. Fernandes sobbed and clutched a crucifix close to his chest as the judge sentenced him to 15 months. He declined to make a recommendation for deportation to India.

Habits To Improve Your Life !

A little planning goes a long way. Eating healthy never happens by accident. For the most part, neither do good fitness, skin protection, healthy teeth, weight loss, and social ties. Many of these habits take effort that need to be scheduled into busy lives .

* EAT BREAKFAST EVERY MORNING

*ADD FISH AND OMEGA-3 FATTY ACIDS TO YOUR DIET

*GET ENOUGH SLEEP

*MAKE SOCIAL CONNECTIONS

*PRACTICE GOOD DENTAL HYGIENE

*EXERCISE FOR BETTER HEALTH

*TAKE UP A HOBBY

*PROTECT YOUR SKIN

*SNACK THE HEALTHY WAY

*DRINK TEA

*DRINK WATER AND EAT DAIRY

*TAKE A DAILY WALK